Category Archives: Mindfulness


For years now, I have used mindfulness with patients, in my personal life, and as a scientist, conducting randomized controlled trials funded by the NIH (e.g., MacCoon, et al., 2012). In fact, my interest in mindfulness led to my graduate studies and subsequent Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology with a focus on the role of attention […]

3 Poisons, Interdependence, & Unpleasant Emotion as Information

In Buddhist traditions, unnecessary suffering is caused by the three poisons: passion, aggression, and ignorance. Ignorance may be the most important of these three. It refers to ignorance of the fact that there is no stable, continuous self. There is no self, we are interdependent There certainly can be a stable story of myself: I […]

The Law of Three Choices

They bug me! 4 things you can do, only 1 of them is healthy.

Intimacy Strategies for Thriving

By using intimacy strategies rather than simply focusing on avoidance strategies we can live healthier lives for ourselves, our loved ones, and the planet.

The Unholy Trinity: Perceptive, Defensive, Not self-aware

There are two critical necessities for a good relationship: (1) Get along, (2) Talk skillfully when you can’t. The presence of the Unholy Trinity make both very difficult. […]

A Reply to Kahlil Gibran’s Observation about Optimism and the Rose

“The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious to the rose.” – Kahlil Gibran. We might add: The wise see the whole rose and thus appreciate all aspects of its beauty without injury.

Saving Our Children: Connecting to Ourselves for Sustainable Well-being (video)

Video of a recent 60-minute talk with music in 9, bite-sized bits, entitled: “Saving Rumi: Connecting to Ourselves for Sustainable Well-being”. It’s a good summary of the sustainable well-being project. Through words and music, the talk discusses how our current way of life is the largest failure in human history, advocates making changes to maximize sustainable well-being, describes some psychological principles needed, and suggests solutions, ranging from a scientific and cultural project called “Open Source Life Design”, to solutions being modeled by pioneering communities throughout the world, to an incubating idea for a Community Supported Sustainable Lake House (CSSL).

Cocaine-Firefly Principle

This Cocaine-firefly Principle is potentially very important given the need for us to maximize sustainable well-being by enjoying more and using less.

Enlightenment eliminates unnecessary suffering but not pain

“…to feel deeply and precisely with full awareness is what opens us to both joy and sorrow…you can’t dip your face to the stream and say, ‘I’ll only drink the hydrogen and not the oxygen.’…the life of feeling is no different. We cannot drink only of happiness or sorrow and have life remain life…Thus, to […]