Tag Archives: marriage

Talk? Only when you have a blank page

Want to have a conversation with your partner? Don’t write a note on black paper with black ink.

Great Talk: Real Communication and the Empathy Dialog

Competency in basic relationship skills is a key component of moving from our dysfunctional status quo to a future of thriving on one planet’s worth of resources (one planet thriving). Building relationships and community are two necessary social technologies. The heart of these social technologies is dealing with reality instead of using avoidance. Being able […]

The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse

John Gottman’s Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Replace these with healthy halos — complaints, self-compassion, realistic thinking, and negotiated breaks — for a better relationship.