I'd like a transformation partner
What Is a Transformation Partner?
A transformation partner is someone you can get to know who is also investing in the Kindness for a Change (KFAC) training. This person can become a friend or be more like a neighbor you say hello to in passing. They’re here to witness your growth, not fix or coach you.
Getting Started
Once assigned, reach out to your partner and introduce yourselves. Share about your lives as feels comfortable based on your boundaries as you get to know someone. You can absolutely talk about KFAC: questions, concerns, observations. Some people continue talking after the training ends; some do not. Always honor your own and your partner’s boundaries.
Your Commitments
Please only sign up for a partner if you can commit to the following for the duration of the training:
Check in once a week for about 15 minutes (can be longer if you both wish, but the idea is that it’s not burdensome)
Be responsive to your partner’s emails
Suggested 15-Minute Check-In Structure
While you can talk freely, here’s a helpful framework:
| Time | Focus | Notes |
|---|---|---|
| 1-2 min | Warm greeting | Settle in, maybe take a breath together |
| 5-6 min | Partner A shares | One highlight, challenge, or insight from the week’s KFAC material |
| 5-6 min | Partner B shares | Same format, equal time |
| 2-3 min | Reflect & commit | Each offers a brief reflection and states one intention for the coming week |
Use a timer to keep things flowing and respectful of time.
Boundaries & Confidentiality
Essential agreements:
Keep all conversations strictly confidential unless there’s imminent risk of harm
Speak from personal experience using “I-statements”
Offer empathy, not advice: “That sounds tough; I’m with you”
Ask before going deeper: “Is it okay if I ask about that?”
Start easy with surface-level sharing and gradually build trust
Avoid:
Sharing partner stories with others
Giving unsolicited advice or trying to “fix”
Pushing for details your partner hesitates to share
Taking on a therapist or counselor role
Addressing Worthiness Concerns
Some people don’t feel worthy of having a partner. This is very sad (but such is the nature of our cultural training). If this is you, consider taking a breath and going for it. Everyone is worthy. But if you feel you need to talk about this before committing, please call us at (920) 325-0303 (9-5 pm CDT).
Logistics & Support
Partner Assignment: We assign partners randomly and share your email with your partner.
Two Partners: If we have an odd number of people requesting a Transformation Partner, it’s helpful if someone is willing to have two partners. This means talking to two separate people at least once per week.
Unresponsive Partner: If you’ve reached out to your partner twice (giving them reasonable time to respond) and received no response, please email support@oneplanetthriving.com.
Requesting a Partner Change
Sometimes a pairing simply does not click. You may request a new partner, yet please understand that:
Partners are allocated based on sign-up order and availability
We will try to honor a reassignment, but a swap is not guaranteed once the roster is full
If a change is impossible, support staff will help you adjust expectations, refine boundaries, or focus on neutral check-ins until the course ends
Steps if you feel a change is needed:
Speak up early: After two unanswered emails or two meetings that feel unworkable, write to support@oneplanetthriving.com
Share specifics (e.g., “missed two calls” or “consistently over time limit”) so we can assess options quickly
While waiting for a decision: Keep communication brief and courteous; you may limit calls to a five-minute check-in that simply exchanges weekly intentions
If a reassignment is not possible, choose one of these responses:
Continue with reduced expectations (e.g., text-only check-ins) until the program ends
Treat the discomfort as practice material—notice feelings, set firmer limits, and use course tools like self-empathy or pause-breath-reflect
Schedule a one-time coaching call with a facilitator to debrief and get strategies for managing the partnership
Key reminder: Growth often arises from navigating imperfect situations. Whether or not a switch is available, your well-being and boundaries remain the priority—honor them, communicate clearly, and reach out for help when needed.
Quick Troubleshooting
Running late: Send a quick message; offer your partner their full time at the next session
Missed meeting: Reschedule within 48 hours, or skip that week’s check-in
Mismatched needs: After two attempts to resolve, request a partner change through KFAC support
Ending partnership: Give at least one week’s notice, express appreciation, and share one takeaway
Remember
This partnership is about consistent, gentle support as you both grow through the KFAC material. You’re not therapists or coaches for each other—you’re fellow travelers offering presence, witnessing, and encouragement. Trust the process, honor boundaries, and let the weekly rhythm create momentum for both of you.