Tag Archives: marriage

Talk? Only when you have a blank page

Want to have a conversation with your partner? Don’t write a note on black paper with black ink.

Real Communication: The Empathy Dialog

What is a real conversation? One in which both people can speak and hear each other. Unfortunately, much of what passes for conversation does not meet this simple standard. This becomes more true as unpleasant emotion increases, with people often simply hearing what they expect to hear and acting from their own reactive scripts, some […]

The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse

John Gottman’s Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Replace these with healthy halos — complaints, self-compassion, realistic thinking, and negotiated breaks — for a better relationship.