What is a real conversation? One in which both people can speak and hear each other. Unfortunately, much of what passes for conversation does not meet this standard. This becomes more true as unpleasant emotion increases until people are simply hearing what they expect to hear and acting from their own reactive scripts, some of […]
John Gottman’s Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Replace these with healthy halos — complaints, self-compassion, realistic thinking, and negotiated breaks — for a better relationship.