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Talk? Only when you have a blank page

Want to have a conversation with your partner? Don’t write a note on black paper with black ink.

The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse

John Gottman’s Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Replace these with healthy halos — complaints, self-compassion, realistic thinking, and negotiated breaks — for a better relationship.