For years now, I have used mindfulness with patients, in my personal life, and as a scientist, conducting randomized controlled trials funded by the NIH (e.g., MacCoon, et al., 2012). In fact, my interest in mindfulness led to my graduate studies in Clinical Psychology with a focus on the role of attention in emotion regulation. […]
In Buddhist traditions, unnecessary suffering is caused by the three poisons: passion, aggression, and ignorance. Ignorance may be the most important of these three. It refers to ignorance of the fact that there is no stable, continuous self. There is no self, we are interdependent There certainly can be a stable story of myself: I […]
Fun, funny, and somewhat important to boot!
They bug me! 4 things you can do, only 1 of them is healthy.
By using intimacy strategies rather than simply focusing on avoidance strategies we can live healthier lives for ourselves, our loved ones, and the planet.
There are two critical necessities for a good relationship: (1) Get along, (2) Talk skillfully when you can’t. The presence of the Unholy Trinity make both very difficult. […]
“The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious to the rose.” – Kahlil Gibran. We might add: The wise see the whole rose and thus appreciate all aspects of its beauty without injury.
Video of a recent 60-minute talk with music in 9, bite-sized bits, entitled: “Saving Rumi: Connecting to Ourselves for Sustainable Well-being”. It’s a good summary of the sustainable well-being project. Through words and music, the talk discusses how our current way of life is the largest failure in human history, advocates making changes to maximize sustainable well-being, describes some psychological principles needed, and suggests solutions, ranging from a scientific and cultural project called “Open Source Life Design”, to solutions being modeled by pioneering communities throughout the world, to an incubating idea for a Community Supported Sustainable Lake House (CSSL).
This Cocaine-firefly Principle is potentially very important given the need for us to maximize sustainable well-being by enjoying more and using less.
“…to feel deeply and precisely with full awareness is what opens us to both joy and sorrow…you can’t dip your face to the stream and say, ‘I’ll only drink the hydrogen and not the oxygen.’…the life of feeling is no different. We cannot drink only of happiness or sorrow and have life remain life…Thus, to […]